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Explore the challenges and triumphs in 'It's the Coach's Fault'—a thought-provoking story that inspires reflection on decision-making in the face of adversity.
Inspiring Life Lessons and Dealing with Cancer
Real Stories
“If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster .. And treat the two Impostors just the same….! Rudyard Kipling
OVERTIME – Episode-2: "Every Coin has two Sides!"
It's the Coach's Fault - The Book comes to life!
OVERTIME – Episode-2: “Everyone Coin has two sides”
https://youtu.be/lY9I-jQZgy4?si=AcGVAT2Yi8jsuYTC
Episode-1 ended with us saying, “When children witness harmony, respect, responsibility, and affection, they assume that’s how relationships are supposed to work.”
We said: “Next time, we’ll look deeper at Thomas and Ella—and the relationship that taught Ray some of life’s earliest lessons.” Well what if what Ray observed was not “harmony, respect, responsibility, and affection”?
What happens when a child sees his parents misbehaving or abusing each other?
The developmental process can become extremely complicated. They can grow up thinking that this version, filled with arguments, neglect and even abusive physical behavior is normal. That can lead to them carrying this bad behavior into their own relationships, which Can be devastating.
Another possibility is that at some point they learn to understand that what they see is just what it describes... bad behavior.
When that happens they often choose one of two paths. 1) They say to themselves, that is definitely not what I want and I will do my best to be different and make sure that my relationships are better.
2) They choose avoidance. They say to themselves, "if that is what happens, then I don't want any part of it".
How does a young boy cope with this situation. How does he develop a personality and frame of mind that will allow him to not only survive this environment but, to come away as a positive force and a leader. Maybe “It’s the Coach’s Fault”
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OVERTIME – Episode-1: The Ingram Family
It's the Coach's Fault - The Book comes to life!
OVERTIME – Episode-1: The Ingram Family
“The series is named ”OVERTIME ”.
I guess that means there has to be a period of regulation time, a beginning, elapsed time, and a projected ending.
So, let’s start filling that in…”
Scene 1 – The Clock Starts
“Every game has a beginning. Every story has a starting point. Mine started long before coaching, long before basketball became my identity.”
We have to start walking into the Past s into and into the neighborhood from the 1950s and 1960s.
“To understand the man, you have to understand the family and the events that shaped him.”
So, here’s the 2-Part Call to Action
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2) Go to the YouTube Channel- then “Like” and “Subscribe” .. then all you have to do is wait .. 😏and whenever I post an update or video, you’ll be amongst the first to know.
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"Overtime - Appetizer"
It's the Coach's Fault - The Book comes to life!
"Overtime” .. Appetizer!
Ray’s Buffet - Overtime Appetizer …
September 26, 2022
Does what we do determine who we are? … or … Does who we are determine what we do?
What are you going to do now…?
https://youtu.be/pjyn8sMgDJs?si=f_ieutnFFhtYrDnc
That was the question that was asked of me many times on the 21st of September 2022.
(The First "Ray's Buffet Post)
That was the day that I “officially” stepped down from my job as Ultimate Hoops League Director at Life Time Baybrook.
For all intents and purposes, I was “retired”. Other than “good luck” and “enjoy your retirement” .. all well appreciated … the only thing that came was “What are you going to do now?”
At the time, I could only give “Ritz-Type” answers, because I didn’t really have an answer.
I’ve done some thinking and now I have one. I’m going to do some writing. No, this is not a blog.
The purpose is not to get hits, likes or to go viral… and please don’t call it a Blog! The purpose is to tell a story .. to pass on information .. to possibly help someone answer a question or make a decision that might affect their life or someone in their life.
When I was coaching, I compared my coaching philosophy with that of a restaurateur who serves Buffet Meals. He tries to present the guest with the best possible food dishes he can make, and then he leaves it up to them to take what they like to eat and hopes they will stay and come back for more.
So, to the original question … “What are you going to do now?”
What’s on the Buffet Table? I plan on telling a story that begins at the end. “What?” You ask.
It begins at or near the end of my book. “What Book?” You ask.
What a cunning lead-in.😂 Well, I have to do something in the hopes of having enough money to feed my habit (eating 😳).
You can get a copy (hard copy or eBook) by going to the link (https://ritzbball.net/coachs-fault-bookshop)
What am I going to do now? I’d like to take a “Bucket Trip” or two and see some of the players I’ve coached and their families. That will be determined by health and financial circumstances.. I’d like to put some information on the table that might help others who are in situations similar to mine. More about that in future servings.
That will be determined by health circumstances.
There will be an occasional reference to some event, team or person from the past. There will be some information about cancer and treatment.
That will all be explained when we get to it and …. It is not intended to be seen as advice from a doctor or medical professional… just personal experiences put on the serving table for you to take and interpret as you see fit.
See you next time…. Coach
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"Overtime - Trailer"
It's the Coach's Fault - The Book comes to life!
"Overtime” .. The Trailer!
This week the actual “Overtime” Series will begin.
For those who don’t know what that is, let me try and give you a brief overview.
A while ago I started a project to try and adapt my book to the screen.
I dove headfirst into creating a screenplay from a book and then some reality checks popped up.
The Series Plan was to follow a dual-timeline narrative. In the present, I will navigate a situation and use flashbacks to connect a situation from the past with that situation.
That sort of fits the theme that runs through the book. Our coaches today help determine who we will be tomorrow. So, in essence we remain tied to our past … “It’s the Coach’s Fault”.
That was the plan. Then, after a PET Scan, came a phone call. “Coach, the results are in. It’s not good news.”
Fast forward… the series will now be on my YouTube channel (@RayRitzIngram).
‼️To make it work, the channel needs subscribers. Check out the channel, like subscribe and share it with others.
The Channel will discuss the Cancer Journey, Sit-Reps and Ray’s Buffet and everything surrounding it. That all began as a way to talk about the Cancer Journey with others who might be connected to it in some way.
The Cancer issue is beginning to get serious, not that it wasn’t in the beginning but now, well if you had subscribed you’d know where I’m sitting. 🤡
The Channel will tell the story from the beginning. It will show a boy’s unfortunate beginnings and follow that boy through years, even decades of ups, downs and in-betweens.
I have attached a video that gives a sample of what’s in store for those who follow the channel.All of the stories, videos and anecdotes come from actual events in my book “It’s the Coach’s Fault”https://youtu.be/T6Xbl4oLHO8?si=ecEd4-Y9dURizTzo
So, here’s the 2-Part Call to Action
Get a copy of the book .. Hard Copy or eBook (https://ritzbball.net/coachs-fault-bookshop)
Go to the YouTube Channel- then “Like” and “Subscribe” .. then all you have to do is wait .. 😏and whenever I post an update or video, you’ll be amongst the first to know.
‼️See the entire Book “It’s the Coach’s Fault” on the YouTube Channel (@RayRitzIngram) come to life.
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"Who's Who in America"
A Journey that began at St. Michael's School for Boys in 1961
“Who’s Who in America”
This could not have come at a better time.
The last six days have been kinda rough and brought a little to my face.
👉🏽 Link to Video:
https://youtube.com/shorts/OR6qXPW6-aI?si=xO7ebVFuU76RiQcf
There’s a backstory… In fact there are lots of backstories… and you can find them in “Overtime”
👉🏽 All “Overtime” Videos are based on true events from the book “It’s the Coach’s Fault”
To read the full text to the videos, go to the “It’s the Coach’s Fault” Website
https://ritzbball.net/its-the-coachs-fault-story
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🗣️The opening period of “Overtime” will be posted the week of 26.May 2026
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Choosing a College
Crossroads .. You don't always know where they will take you!
Crossroads ... are points in Life when decisions have to be made that can determine what your life will look like and what you might become.
Sometimes the answers don’t come until much later in your life.
Get a copy of “It’s the Coach’s Fault”, for yourself or someone else, and see what that can look like.
One Hurdle Down
The High School Years at Olney
ONE HURDLE DOWN
A Chapter from It’s the Coach’s Fault
Some hurdles break you.
Some build you.
This is the story of the one that built him.
Watch the Trailer
“One Hurdle Down” is about a powerful chapter from It’s the Coach’s Fault, the true story of Lauritz
“Ritz” Ingram’s journey from adversity to achievement.
After leaving St. Michael’s School for Boys, a young Ray enters Olney High School in Philadelphia,
where basketball, mentorship, and academic discipline reshape his future.
Under the guidance of Coach Spizirri, he transforms from a survivor into an All-City student-athlete.
This inspirational story explores resilience, leadership, personal growth, and the life-changing
impact of one coach who chose to believe.
The Beginning.....
Judge Hoffmann and St. Michael's
Philadelphia … 1961
Pardon my use of the 3rd Person but, I felt that it might sound biased if every second line started with „I“ 😈
He wasn’t a bad kid. He was just a kid… growing up fast… in a world that didn’t slow down for boys like him. The first time he stood beside a police car, he tried to look tough. The second time… he wasn’t so sure.
The Youth Study Center. They said it would straighten him out. They said it would teach him structure. But every visit felt colder. Every return felt heavier. And then came the courtroom. Common Pleas Court of Philadelphia.
One man. One gavel. One decision.
“One year… at St. Michael’s School for Boys.” One year. That became two and a half. Hoban Heights, Pennsylvania.
A hilltop building. Long hallways. Closed doors.
Something happened there. Something that tested him. Something that hardened him. Something that shaped him.
Did it break him? Or did it build him? What happened at St. Michael’s? What became of that young boy from Philadelphia? The answers are not what you expect.
Discover the story in… “It’s the Coach’s Fault”
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